Sunday, June 27, 2010

The difference between a weekday and a weekend

Weekday, specifically this Friday:
Xander is up and raring to go at 6am. Jonathan gets up with him first while I doze half in and out of consciousness. Yentl and Simcha come in the room to cuddle and purr. We all go down for breakfast around 7. Play puzzles, Lego, and stuffed animals.

8am I leave for the hospital.
8:30-9:30 impromptu group session of all the students.
9:30-10:30 Outpatient chemo ward. Talk to people in various stages of cancer. Offer comfort.
10:30-11:30 Accompany another chaplain to the oncology ward. Speak with patients about their losses. Some conversations have nothing to do with why they're in the hospital; the woman with COPD wants to talk about her son's death six months earlier. The woman who can't breathe talks about finances.
11:30-12 See a patient on the detox unit. Talk about prayer, faith, sponsors, AA, falling off the wagon, self-esteem.
12-1 Lunch. Decompress with other chaplains.
1-2 Visit on the Cardiac ICU. See patients who were in the ICU yesterday but were now moved to different floors.
2-4 Regular room visits on the cardiology floor.
Go home, make Shabbat dinner with Jonathan.
6pm Jeffrey comes over. We sing, eat, and laugh as Xander's eyes go wide at the realization that tonight he gets grape juice!
7:30 Xander goes to bed. 1 or 2 regular books, then Goodnight Moon. Adorable because he mixes up his "ss" and "sh" sounds - so when he repeats that the old lady who says hush in the book goes "sssshh," it comes out as "sss." And then whenever he says "sit," it comes out as... yep.

In contrast, behold my schedule for Shabbat:
Xander up at 6. Breakfast is challah French toast. We all play til 8. Jonathan takes him for boy bonding while I go back to bed until 11. I get up, play more, we all eat lunch. Everyone naps from 12-3. We visit with friends in the afternoon (this time some new friends from Tot Shabbat, who have two kidlets). We eat dinner there, come home, put Xander to bed. Jonathan and I watch our new DVD addiction, Dollhouse, from Joss Whedon of Buffy and Firefly.

And today:
Xander up at 6. We all play. Swim lessons at 9:30, then more pool fun til 11ish. Picnic lunch there, then drive home. (We learned the hard way to eat before we leave, because Xander falls asleep the moment we get in the car, no matter whether he's eaten or not). Then home, transfer the boy to his bed for nap. Nap ourselves. Wake up, play outside or inside. Maybe check email, maybe not. Webcam with family. Dinner, bathtime, bedtime rituals. Do some of the writing for CPE, some editing for my AJA job, relax a bit, then bedtime.

Is it any wonder that I really like my weekends?!

3 comments:

Janet said...

And soon I'll be spending one of those glorious weekends WITH you! I can't wait!!
Love,
Mom/Bubby

Tara said...

Hmm... I can't imagine why you'd like your weekdays over your weekends! :P

Your internship sounds emotionally draining. Being around that type of environment must depress you. It's heartbreaking to see and hear the words of people who are in despair. :( Hang in there! The up side to things is that you always have that retreat to home and then you can REALLY unwind! :)

Oh, and talking to friends too. ;)

Michal said...

Tara, you are so wise. It IS draining... and you're right, home is a retreat. And speaking of friends talking... we need to make a phone date!